Why is it frown upon to have a baby at a old age?
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I don’t understand why people think it is bad to have a baby at an old age.As long as they care for their child … there’s nothing wrong!
If sadly the mother dies a family member will pick up the role for caring for the child.
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I don’t understand why people think it is bad to have a baby at an old age.As long as they care for their child … there’s nothing wrong!
If sadly the mother dies a family member will pick up the role for caring for the child.
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August 20th, 2009 at 6:21 pm
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The older a woman becomes, the more likely it is that her pregnancy will be risky and that the child will have mental or physical disabilities. Woman over 35 often have to have more doctor check-ups, and more ultrasounds than women that are younger. Other than that, it is fine!
August 20th, 2009 at 6:39 pm
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I dunno, I was wondering the same thing but I don’t see anything wrong with it.
August 22nd, 2009 at 12:20 pm
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People frown at things that are not apart of them. It’s called being closed minded. As long as the child is with loving parents, who are committed to raising the child in the best way they can – it should not be an issue. As far as early death, our life is not promised on a daily basis. Even young parents in their 20′s-30′s could have something happen to them where they are no longer able to physically care for their children. It’s all in the mind!
August 24th, 2009 at 6:33 am
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I guess it depends on how old the mother is. If you’re talking about some of the women you’ve seen in the news that are in their 50′s or 60′s then yes, it can be dangerous to carry a child to both the mother and the baby. If you’re talking about women in their late 30′s, early 40′s, their chances of having a baby with certain disabilities are higher than a woman in her 20′s or early 30′s which is considered the optimum age for having a baby.
I guess you have to individually weigh the pros and cons of getting pregnant at any age, and then make a hopefully educated decision. Talking to an OB/GYN is your best bet to get all the info you need before TTC.
August 26th, 2009 at 7:08 pm
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If sadly the mother dies a family member will pick up the role? Im sure most kids want their mums to be with them as long as possible. The 67 year old spanish mother who died recently had no other children and no family so who is going to look after her twins….to have thei mother dying at the age of 3. She shouldnt of been allowed IVF and she lied about her age to get it. The health risks alone are a reason not to do it. I just think that once you hit 55 it shouldnt be something you should want to do. I cannot imagine my mother having a baby now and she just turned 50. Your body stops your periods and things naturally so you shouldnt be having more kids. So why mess with nature
August 27th, 2009 at 8:04 am
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I dont know, Im 37 and pregnant with my 3rd child, my doctor said the only risk is the downs syndrome risk and that if a woman is healthy she is at no more risk than a 20 year old. I will be 28 weeks thursday and have had no problems at all. sure Ill be almost 60 when he is 20 but whats that got to do with anything
August 29th, 2009 at 2:55 am
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Its not really frowned upon its just sincere worry. First for the mothers pregnancy for both the mother and the baby. Many disabilities can come to the baby after the mom is 35. Then second is if she is very old in age she may not make it through the pregnancy and if she does its very hard for her body through the whole thing.
August 30th, 2009 at 6:13 am
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My grandfather was 66 and his girlfriend was 50 when she had their baby. Both of them are dead now and I have their son who is now 16 and I have my own three kids 15,16 and 19. I moved from my state to care for my grandfather becaus his gf died then he got sick and died. the children that are born end up with family members so the child won’t end up in the system.
September 1st, 2009 at 6:36 pm
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I don’t frown upon it… but I don’t think it’s necessarily a good thing. My parents had me at 40.. which isn’t extreme, but it still wasn’t ideal. When I was graduating elementary school they were 50.. and all the other parents were in their 30s or so. Everyone always thought they were my grandparents and that was awkward. They weren’t as involved in the things I did like the younger parents. Other parents got down and played with their kids and coached sports and were involved in the PTA and organizing bake-sales. My parents could hardly be bothered to come watch a sporting game and be out in the sun that long.. their back hurt with the bench seating and it was at the same time as bingo. It seems cliche… but it was. I wanted to have my children younger because of it. BUT some older parents do a fine job. My sister is pregnant with her 6th and 40 years old now. She will be having her in a week about
… she is a great mother and her husband is a great father. They are active, fit, involved, patient and just great parents. I always felt like my parents didn’t have the patience for children at their ages… kind of like how grandparents might not. It depends on the situation whether it’s a good thing or not… but I think in either case it’s more ideal to have children before 35.
If you’re really talking about “old age” .. like 60 or 70 or something.. then obviously that’s just selfish. #1.. selfish to the child. Sure someone else will end up raising them, but it’s not fair to have a child and take on the role of mothering if you have good reason to believe you might not be around before they are legally an adult. #2.. selfish to the other family members. You say “a family member will pick up the role for caring for the child.” This is true in some cases, but is that fair? Is that fair to decide you want a child for your last few years then expect to pawn them off on someone else? The family members have their own families and lives and while in the case of a random tragedy they would of course want to help.. doing this is almost expecting them to before you have the child. I think the age of fertility is designed the way it is for a reason and we’re best to stick to nature with it. If it’s not important enough for you to have a child from 16-44 then perhaps it isn’t a big enough priority in your life to have a child at all.